My Husband Never Wants to Do Family Things

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Old 04-15-2011, 03:01 PM

ChessieMom

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My friend just told me how her husband never wants to leave with the family unit (married woman and two small children) to things like carnivals, birthday parties, etc. He complains the whole time and would rather stay dwelling house and take a nap. She says this is normal.

I don't think so. It seems to me that there are plenty of husbands out there who would love to spend time with their wife and kids, going to the park, soccer game, Disney, or whatever. It just doesn't seem normal for the married woman to take the kids around by herself on the weekend.

What do you lot guys think? I'g talking most families where both parents work, so information technology's not similar the married woman wants to get out of the house and the husband but wants to kick back subsequently a long week.

I would like to think that about men want to spend time with their family unit on the weekend, but am I wrong? I know kiddie birthday parties might not be nearly men'south idea of a good time, but I'one thousand talking about staying habitation for Almost family activities, while she takes the kids out and meets up with her sis and her kids (her married man is as well not there!)

I don't recall it'south "normal" beliefs for a man that is happy within his matrimony and family. I think most men exercise desire to partake in at least some of these activities. I'm a mom, and for me of course, it's second nature to do this stuff. But fifty-fifty my ex did the Chuck-E-Cheese parties and the park...and most CERTAINLY the soccer games and other sports. Frankly, a father that didn't want to go to his sons games is rather unusual I think, and sad as well.

Old 04-15-2011, 03:04 PM

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Gives the husband some 'alone' time to surf the intrawebs for babes.

Old 04-15-2011, 03:04 PM

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Totally

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I don't call up information technology's "normal" behavior for a human that is happy within his marriage and family. I recollect most men practise desire to partake in at to the lowest degree some of these activities. I'm a mom, and for me of course, information technology'southward 2d nature to practice this stuff. But even my ex did the Chuck-Eastward-Cheese parties and the park...and most CERTAINLY the soccer games and other sports. Frankly, a father that didn't want to become to his sons games is rather unusual I retrieve, and deplorable as well.

Old 04-15-2011, 03:eighteen PM

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It's probably about as normal as not....

Old 04-15-2011, 04:49 PM

behindthescreen

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Mature men similar to be at Abode relaxing on the weekend. Either fixing something, drinking something, doing the m, watching the game, lighting up the bbq, hanging out with his buddy in the garage, edifice something, etc. They don't want to be around other peoples screaming kids, parties, women talk, etc. They practice it one time in awhile so the married woman doesn't first how he doesn't spend time with her and the kids! That was my house anyway lol

Old 04-15-2011, 04:57 PM

max's mama

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I call back that some men are very introverted and prefer to stay in and not socialize. If my married man whined and complained every fourth dimension we are out at parties or events, I would leave him home myself! I am bold that the reason your friend'due south hubby acts this way is not because he doesn't enjoy spending time with his family, but because he doesn't enjoy social interactions with other people. If this works for them, it works for them.

Old 04-fifteen-2011, 05:53 PM

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My friend but told me how her husband never wants to get out with the family (wife and two small children) to things like carnivals, birthday parties, etc. He complains the whole time and would rather stay home and take a nap. She says this is normal.

I don't call up so. It seems to me that there are enough of husbands out there who would honey to spend time with their married woman and kids, going to the park, soccer game, Disney, or whatever. Information technology just doesn't seem normal for the wife to accept the kids around by herself on the weekend.

What practise you guys think? I'm talking virtually families where both parents work, then it'southward not like the wife wants to leave of the house and the husband only wants to kick dorsum afterwards a long week.

I would similar to think that most men want to spend time with their family on the weekend, but am I wrong? I know kiddie birthday parties might non be almost men's idea of a good time, but I'thou talking virtually staying home for Near family activities, while she takes the kids out and meets upward with her sister and her kids (her husband is also not there!)

This doesn't seem similar a normal situation, specially if all he's doing is napping.

one. It isn't fair on her since she has to deal with the kids. I hateful, they're just children, but I'thousand certain they bulldoze her up a wall and some help from the husband would go a long way.

ii. Family bonding fourth dimension is extremely of import for a family to become closer. If both husband and married woman work, both of them tin can't commit a ton of time during the week for there children. Now, they volition have to dedicate at that place nights to them, simply during the morn and day, the children won't run into them. Weekends with the family unit, a family night, and planned family vacations are extremely important for the kids to see both parents more, and to abound their bonds with each other.

Yes, I recollect her husband is incorrect, and that's my opinion.

Old 04-15-2011, 07:24 PM

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I don't think the husband is introverted or agape of crowds. In fact, he seems the contrary to me. He works as a chef, so he has long/ odd hours and is on his anxiety a lot I estimate. However, she works hard too and commutes 2 hours a day.

Even so, the wife says "He doesn't get and I don't want him to considering all he does is complain the entire time."
That doesn't sound very healthy to me. I can understand skipping the crazy kiddie birthday (their kids are both under 4) but what about a carnival or an outing to the local park/ hike, etc?

It seems to me that most men would want to exist involved with their kids. I mean, what did you have them for? I exercise remember that my begetter was never there for our events. Soccer games, my ballet receitals - I don't retrieve him ever beingness in that location. He was ever off with the guys. But back then, I don't remember information technology being a big deal b/c my mother picked up the slack very, very well. Now he is more interested in us for sure (he'due south 66), so y'all tin never tell what's in the mind of a human!

Old 04-fifteen-2011, 07:27 PM

Location: Cardinal FL

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I do that from time to fourth dimension. Petty child birthday is across tedious specially if I don't know any other parents. Most of the time, my kid is dropped off and picked upwardly later. I'1000 likewise not in the motion picture when it comes to vacation with the in-laws; I'd rather be strangled. My wife and child are going to spend a week in some state park in which my in-laws used to accept their children for holiday. I get to stay home, piece of work on the cars, and go racing.

Are you lot OK with being away from them for an entire week? (mostly the kids)

My married man would never, ever want to be abroad from the kids similar that. Peradventure your kids are older.

I'm starting to see that what my friend told me today has a lot of truth: the key to a adept spousal relationship is time apart!

Old 04-15-2011, 08:xx PM

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Frankly, a male parent that didn't want to go to his sons games is rather unusual I think, and sad every bit well.

I call up this comment is funny. My hubby and I always went to watch our children play sports. But we did information technology out of obligation. We hated it. I'd rather have my teeth pulled than sit on benches with a bunch of other parents and watch sports. I hate other parents. I detest sports. Of form, our children had no thought we felt that way because nosotros had the good sense to get with happy hearts.

Married man and I would sometimes quietly commiserate. OMG and boy scout pinewood derby day was just torture. It was ALL Twenty-four hour period LONG. I tin't fifty-fifty imagine what it would exist like for Cheerleading families who take to travel to out of state competitions. Must be dreadful. (I accept a friend who actually offered to give her girl 5k for a graduation gift if she didn't become into cheerleading because she was tired after doing it after three older daughters were cheerleaders.) I practice realize that many parents are truly thrilled to scout their children exercise annihilation. I also know that many parents feel the same as we do.

What I think is funny is your thinking it's unusual for a parent to not desire to go. I don't call up that's unusal at all. But I'll agree that it's sad if parents refuse to get when they accept free fourth dimension bachelor (some can't get because they are working). Since today's parents get to sentinel their children, it volition definitely make a child feel desperately if parents didn't become.


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